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Sometimes all you need is a reality check

27 Feb

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I’m sure I’m not alone on this one when I say we sometimes need someone else to bring us back to reality and point out the obvious. And for the most part, it’s usually not what we want to hear but we have to hear it anyway. Other times, it may be “YES! I feel the same way!” and think to ourselves, “God, I’m so glad I’m not alone on this one.” You know you’ve been there at one point or another, so don’t try to state otherwise.

For us girls still trying to survive in this crazy part of the world called~ the dating scene, I’m sure you can feel my pain when I speak of this. And I also know you feel my pain when your now married friends or people who you associate with and they are “taken” say to you, “Oh it will happen someday.” In this type of situation, I want to say to these people, “Listen. You were once me. And yes I know it will happen. But right now, I need you to just listen and be. Let me vent. Let me get it off my chest and then you can bring me back to reality.” Bitchy? Maybe. But for me that’s my way of bring them back to reality.

Today I was sent this link to a fabulously written essay on how we, us ‘single’ folk, may sometimes act~ whether we know it or not. I cannot even begin to explain on how I feel like this post was written for me and the many other girls out there who are in the same situation. She’s blunt, honest, and real. And ladies, we all need someone like this in our life. Luckily for me, I have my sister and my 2 best friends, whom I’ve known since the days of scrunchies and no cell phones, who will always be those people. But sometimes it can be done by a stranger, in writing, for us to always have as a reminder. Permanent. Never going away.

If you need to print out and reread this a few times, do it! If you need to read it daily until you get “out of the basement”, do it!

Once you are ready, you will realize “Your capacity to love is so great that it will carry you through most things in this world that we live in.”

Click on this link below to read this brilliantly written post!

I Don’t Like You But I Want You To Want Me..

Time to move on up ladies!

xo

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Valentine’s Day….just another day

13 Feb

“Surrender the idea that being single on Valentine’s Day somehow makes you flawed. One day does NOT define you.” ~The Single Woman

I was scrolling through my Twitter feed today and I came across this quote. Once again Miss Mandy Hale, a.k.a. The Single Woman, hit my emotion right on the nail. As I try to not get anxiety about tomorrow being Valentine’s Day, like so many other people out there, I have had to stop and reminlive-laugh-loved myself that I am not flawed. There is nothing wrong with me and there is also nothing wrong with me thinking tomorrow is just another day for me. Do I wish things were somewhat different? Yes. But until they are, I will carry on as usual. And I urge many of you who are feeling the same way to do the same.

One year later and now at the age of 33, and still fabulously “single” (I like to think I am forever 29), I have become 99.9% okay with the fact that I am having just another day tomorrow. Do I want the flowers (daisies preferably, I like to be different) and just a simple card?? Yes. Am I willing to wait for the man who wants to do those things for me? Yes. Until then, I have 52 children who will make me laugh and smile tomorrow. And I have a niece and nephew who I love to pieces. Tomorrow, you need to surround yourself with the people who make you laugh, smile and feel loved. Reflect upon all the wonderful people you DO have in your life that care and love you. I always believe actions speak louder than words. Hopefully these people in your life will let you know how they feel; even if it’s the simplest act.

I’m sure there are many people out there who are in a new relationship or just starting one, and I urge you to just treat tomorrow like it’s any other special day you would have with that person. I don’t think tomorrow should signify why someone tells you how they feel. If you like someone, tell them. If you want to see that special someone smile, make them. You do not need a ‘holiday’ to make you do those things. You can’t be afraid to express how you feel either. Tomorrow may be the boost you need to be able to do these things and use it as that. That’s okay. But don’t look at tomorrow as the only day to do it and not continue with it.

For those of you who will be in the same ‘position’ as me, I urge you to wake up tomorrow with a smile. Put on some of your favorite music while you’re getting ready and start your day off right. Treat yourself to something special. A treat to Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, a cocktail with a single girlfriend ( and don’t go out complaining about men either!)~ reminisce about some great stories you both can share or just relax with a glass of wine when you get home and watch one of your favorite shows you’ve been dying to catch up on or pop in your favorite movie.

Tomorrow is about you and only you. And if you have a special someone in your life, don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. Carpe Diem my friends!

I wish for you a wonderful Valentine’s Day and a memorable one. It only comes around once year, make it count.

xo

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Love yourself first

17 Jan

SATCSeventeen days into 2013 and I’m pretty confident things will be much brighter and positive for me this year. As I look back at how far I have come in even one year, I’m amazed at how things have changed. I’m now surrounding myself with people who have a love for things that I like to do, I’m determined to get fit not only to ‘look’ better in my eyes but to be ‘BE’ better in a sense of healthiness~spiritually, mentally and physically. I’m also not settling into a relationship with the first man that gives me attention just because I want to be in a relationship.

I look around the circle of people in my life and there are relationships and wants that I someday would like to have and there are also things that I do not want to have. I am making a promise to myself to find true love, which to me is a healthy and loving relationship with someone who wants what I want and cares for me unconditionally. I will no longer feel like I have to adhere to society’s take on what a 33 year old woman’s life should be like.

As I browsed my favorite girl’s website today, Miss Mandy Hale ~thesinglewoman.net, she couldn’t have written a better post. We as women who haven’t found our Mr. Right yet, need to continue on our road called Life and know in our hearts, it will happen. For all we know, he could be ready and waiting for us. But until then, we shall love what we DO have in our lives instead of what we DON’T. Make 2013 count and make it a memorable one!

It’s better to be someone who’s single than someone who settled.~ The Single Woman

Happy traveling!

xo

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Love the life you have

11 Aug

As I sat down to write tonight I turned to my trusty source, The Single Woman, for some quotes to help me with my new post. We all know I turn to her for inspiration, reality checks, advice, etc. (I swear she is me living in another state. We are way too similar.)

However tonight, I didn’t need to write my own post. I got to reading her’s for the day and it was as if she wrote it for me already. As I continue to sit here on my comfy couch on a Friday night and think “Why does this always happen to me?” or “When does it ever end?” I am going to think about her post and stop feeling “sorry” for myself.
And if you ever find yourself feeling the way I am today, along with many other women, read this post and remind yourself you are perfect just the way you are. We don’t have to follow anyone’s rules, especially society’s. We only need to follow our own.

“Never use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings. ~Liz Gilbert” #TheSW

Click hear to read The Single Woman’s post from today

http://TheSingleWoman.net/

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xo

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