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Sometimes all you need is a reality check

27 Feb

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I’m sure I’m not alone on this one when I say we sometimes need someone else to bring us back to reality and point out the obvious. And for the most part, it’s usually not what we want to hear but we have to hear it anyway. Other times, it may be “YES! I feel the same way!” and think to ourselves, “God, I’m so glad I’m not alone on this one.” You know you’ve been there at one point or another, so don’t try to state otherwise.

For us girls still trying to survive in this crazy part of the world called~ the dating scene, I’m sure you can feel my pain when I speak of this. And I also know you feel my pain when your now married friends or people who you associate with and they are “taken” say to you, “Oh it will happen someday.” In this type of situation, I want to say to these people, “Listen. You were once me. And yes I know it will happen. But right now, I need you to just listen and be. Let me vent. Let me get it off my chest and then you can bring me back to reality.” Bitchy? Maybe. But for me that’s my way of bring them back to reality.

Today I was sent this link to a fabulously written essay on how we, us ‘single’ folk, may sometimes act~ whether we know it or not. I cannot even begin to explain on how I feel like this post was written for me and the many other girls out there who are in the same situation. She’s blunt, honest, and real. And ladies, we all need someone like this in our life. Luckily for me, I have my sister and my 2 best friends, whom I’ve known since the days of scrunchies and no cell phones, who will always be those people. But sometimes it can be done by a stranger, in writing, for us to always have as a reminder. Permanent. Never going away.

If you need to print out and reread this a few times, do it! If you need to read it daily until you get “out of the basement”, do it!

Once you are ready, you will realize “Your capacity to love is so great that it will carry you through most things in this world that we live in.”

Click on this link below to read this brilliantly written post!

I Don’t Like You But I Want You To Want Me..

Time to move on up ladies!

xo

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Love yourself first

17 Jan

SATCSeventeen days into 2013 and I’m pretty confident things will be much brighter and positive for me this year. As I look back at how far I have come in even one year, I’m amazed at how things have changed. I’m now surrounding myself with people who have a love for things that I like to do, I’m determined to get fit not only to ‘look’ better in my eyes but to be ‘BE’ better in a sense of healthiness~spiritually, mentally and physically. I’m also not settling into a relationship with the first man that gives me attention just because I want to be in a relationship.

I look around the circle of people in my life and there are relationships and wants that I someday would like to have and there are also things that I do not want to have. I am making a promise to myself to find true love, which to me is a healthy and loving relationship with someone who wants what I want and cares for me unconditionally. I will no longer feel like I have to adhere to society’s take on what a 33 year old woman’s life should be like.

As I browsed my favorite girl’s website today, Miss Mandy Hale ~thesinglewoman.net, she couldn’t have written a better post. We as women who haven’t found our Mr. Right yet, need to continue on our road called Life and know in our hearts, it will happen. For all we know, he could be ready and waiting for us. But until then, we shall love what we DO have in our lives instead of what we DON’T. Make 2013 count and make it a memorable one!

It’s better to be someone who’s single than someone who settled.~ The Single Woman

Happy traveling!

xo

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Ask Jake??

20 Jan

Last Friday, just as I was getting ready to sit on the couch and relax for a little bit after work, I noticed a package on the table. Now normally I would have thought this was strange because I live alone and would be a little panicky about how a package got there, but this weekend, I’m sharing my house with my long distance boyfriend, Mr.Ohio, so I’m assuming he greeted the UPS man and accepted this wonderful package.

I immediately open it up excitedly because it’s from Glamour and they are always sending us something to try out so I couldn’t wait to see what it was. To my surprise, it was a book, “Always hit on the wingman….and 9 other secret rules for getting the love life you want”. I actually laughed to myself and said, “You’ve got to be kidding me.” I honestly felt like it was a sign from God!! I know in relationships we can sometimes get to that point, where you’re standing in the middle of the road, wondering where to go next and you’re just waiting for a sign to do something. Well that Friday, I got my sign. Jake, America’s most trusted dating columnist at Glamour, was going to help me with my love life.

I immediately began to skim through the book out of curiosity to see what these ‘rules’ were for dating. And to my surprise, they will help women in any situation. Want a boyfriend? A better boyfriend? A ring? Enhance the relationship you already have? You name it, Jake can help. Glamour’s Jake has been doing this since 1956. 1956?! Can you believe it?! This book is full of wisdom from all of these past men and they are ready to help.

Here’s a sneak peak to some of their rules (and I’ve got to admit, they are VERY insightful and helpful):

Rule #1~ Always Hit on the Wingman

Now I know what you’re thinking, what?! But once you read this chapter you will fully understand and you will have an Ah-ha moment. Trust me. I did and I couldn’t believe it worked. This is how I ended up with Mr.Ohio.

Rule #2~ Know How Sexy You Really Are

Women are their worst critics and you know what ladies, it’s time we stop! Men honestly love us and our bodies, for who and what we are. Men want women who are confident in their own skin and don’t want us to be afraid to broadcast who you really are. As Jake would say, “If you’re a nerd, let your nerd flag fly.”

Jumping to Rule #4~ Repeat After Me: The Best Men Don’t Send Expensive Flowers

Now if you know me, you will know recently I’ve been wondering where the courting has gone, but I had a little reality check when I read this chapter. It’s not about always getting the expensive flowers or the materialistic things, it’s about the little things. And also ladies, we need to remember just because you are always receiving these fabulous flowers and having all acts of chivalry done for us, make sure he means it and is doing it because he wants to not because he feels he ‘has’ to.

Rule #5~Please Don’t Pretend to Know What the Infield Fly Rule is

I couldn’t agree with Jake any more on this. I know women like to think we know everything there is about sports, but ladies, let’s be honest, we don’t, or at least most of us women don’t know it all. Men don’t want someone who can name names, stats, and facts. They want us to just be us. If we don’t know what is going on in a certain game, just ask. It’s that simple. So stop memorizing those names and info because you will not be quizzed on it after your date.

So there you have it ladies, a sneak peak into this fantastic book for all!!!! Head over to Amazon and get your copy! It was quick, easy, and very entertaining to read and I would recommend this book to any of my girlfriends and their friends. It definitely goes to show that men are simple and will always continue to like us and then love us for who we are.

Happy Reading!!

xo

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