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A mother’s advice

8 Sep

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Growing up with my mom and my sister, after my parents divorced, is when the three of us really become our own little family. Throughout my teenage years, into my twenties and now thirties, my mom was always there for me and ready to give advice even when I didn’t need it or want to hear it. But I have to say, until this day her voice and words are always in my head!

Just the other week, about a week before school started, I was shall we say, ‘presented’, with exes, or men that I care to not see anymore, that were once in my life. They just kept popping up every where I went. So annoying! We all know what this feels like and it’s not very comfortable. Our minds drift off for a quick millisecond of what our past was like and it reminds you of your hurt.

So during one of these encounters, my mother happened to be there with me and she said something to me that literally struck a nerve and I had an A-HA moment.

I was on my rant about “Ugh, why does He keep punishing me by putting me in these situations.” “Why must I be reminded of the jerks I’ve had in my life?” I know I can’t be alone on these thoughts, but let me tell you, the next statement will be what you need to hear as well.

My mother looked at me and said,”Erica, they’re not punishments for you. Maybe you’re meant to be lesson or a reminder for them. It’s not always about you.”

Honestly, I never ever stopped and thought about any of those situations throughout my life in that light. I always felt I was presented those encounters as lessons for me, when they could’ve been lessons for them at the time. Think about that the next time you are faced with someone who hurt you. Believe that you are not being punished for something by running into them. You may be just the lesson they needed to have at that very moment.

Thanks Mom! me and my mom

Listen to the advice!

xo

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Ask Jake??

20 Jan

Last Friday, just as I was getting ready to sit on the couch and relax for a little bit after work, I noticed a package on the table. Now normally I would have thought this was strange because I live alone and would be a little panicky about how a package got there, but this weekend, I’m sharing my house with my long distance boyfriend, Mr.Ohio, so I’m assuming he greeted the UPS man and accepted this wonderful package.

I immediately open it up excitedly because it’s from Glamour and they are always sending us something to try out so I couldn’t wait to see what it was. To my surprise, it was a book, “Always hit on the wingman….and 9 other secret rules for getting the love life you want”. I actually laughed to myself and said, “You’ve got to be kidding me.” I honestly felt like it was a sign from God!! I know in relationships we can sometimes get to that point, where you’re standing in the middle of the road, wondering where to go next and you’re just waiting for a sign to do something. Well that Friday, I got my sign. Jake, America’s most trusted dating columnist at Glamour, was going to help me with my love life.

I immediately began to skim through the book out of curiosity to see what these ‘rules’ were for dating. And to my surprise, they will help women in any situation. Want a boyfriend? A better boyfriend? A ring? Enhance the relationship you already have? You name it, Jake can help. Glamour’s Jake has been doing this since 1956. 1956?! Can you believe it?! This book is full of wisdom from all of these past men and they are ready to help.

Here’s a sneak peak to some of their rules (and I’ve got to admit, they are VERY insightful and helpful):

Rule #1~ Always Hit on the Wingman

Now I know what you’re thinking, what?! But once you read this chapter you will fully understand and you will have an Ah-ha moment. Trust me. I did and I couldn’t believe it worked. This is how I ended up with Mr.Ohio.

Rule #2~ Know How Sexy You Really Are

Women are their worst critics and you know what ladies, it’s time we stop! Men honestly love us and our bodies, for who and what we are. Men want women who are confident in their own skin and don’t want us to be afraid to broadcast who you really are. As Jake would say, “If you’re a nerd, let your nerd flag fly.”

Jumping to Rule #4~ Repeat After Me: The Best Men Don’t Send Expensive Flowers

Now if you know me, you will know recently I’ve been wondering where the courting has gone, but I had a little reality check when I read this chapter. It’s not about always getting the expensive flowers or the materialistic things, it’s about the little things. And also ladies, we need to remember just because you are always receiving these fabulous flowers and having all acts of chivalry done for us, make sure he means it and is doing it because he wants to not because he feels he ‘has’ to.

Rule #5~Please Don’t Pretend to Know What the Infield Fly Rule is

I couldn’t agree with Jake any more on this. I know women like to think we know everything there is about sports, but ladies, let’s be honest, we don’t, or at least most of us women don’t know it all. Men don’t want someone who can name names, stats, and facts. They want us to just be us. If we don’t know what is going on in a certain game, just ask. It’s that simple. So stop memorizing those names and info because you will not be quizzed on it after your date.

So there you have it ladies, a sneak peak into this fantastic book for all!!!! Head over to Amazon and get your copy! It was quick, easy, and very entertaining to read and I would recommend this book to any of my girlfriends and their friends. It definitely goes to show that men are simple and will always continue to like us and then love us for who we are.

Happy Reading!!

xo

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