Today, just like any other day, I was scrolling through my Twitter feed and I stumbled upon The Single Woman‘s column. And once again, it was as if she was writing to me, for me and as me.
Like myself, she continually has people say to her and/or give the ‘look’ of “She must be single for a reason?!” Little do people even realize, when they say things in this context, is that people who are single are not single for a reason. We choose to embrace our lives as god, or whoever, wants us to live it. Now I’d be lying if I said I never said to myself at one point in my life, “I must be cursed or something.” But in reality, I have now realized it is because I have more to offer and I haven’t met Mr.Right yet. I may continue to meet many more Mr. Wrongs, but that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with me, or anyone else in my shoes for that matter.
“Maybe, just maybe, us single folks are single because we are brave enough to face the glorious unknown of the unaccompanied journey.” ~TheSW
On a day like today, where I felt like my life was being turned from every which way, I stopped to think about what she wrote. I truly believe EVERYTHING happens for a reason, and I have to embrace the unknown that I am continually faced with everyday. Within the past 16 months, my life has changed. I have had unbelievable opportunities and experiences (and they keep on coming), I thought I met the man of my dreams (how quickly things change, sometimes even faster than a NY minute) and I have learned that I am going to be A-okay.
Throughout this journey of mine, I have learned to love my life, accept my life, and never, ever, settle just because every one else around me is doing what ‘society’ is expecting me to do. If ‘society’ says you’re supposed to marry and have babies by the age of 30, then I’m breaking all of the rules. Here’s a little bit of news for society, I’m not following their rules. I’m following my own. Do I want a loving husband and kids? Sure, someday. But right now, god has another plan for me and I can only hope there is someone waiting to meet me and accompany me on my journey. That’s all we can all ever hope for and I know there is someone who will be my better half. However, in the words of Michael Bublé, “I just haven’t met you yet.”
“Don’t ask god to lead the way, if you’re not willing to take the first step.” I couldn’t agree with this more. I know many of us don’t like the unknown, trust me, I’m the first one to admit it, but as I get ‘older’ (I like to think wiser), you truly have to have trust and have faith in your self. Period.
So for all of my fabulous single ladies (and gents), the next time you find yourself a little bit down because you’re home on a weekend night, or going to a wedding alone, don’t be afraid to say to yourself and society, “Yes! I am single. And not afraid to be.” Because someday, we will have the happily ever after. We will have the future we have planned for ourselves in our head. But until then, let’s sit back, buckle up, and enjoy this glorious and fabulous ride of the ‘single’ life.